That ONE thing!!

That ONE thing!!

What is that ONE thing that makes your heart burn like a raging fire?

What is that ONE thing that you were born to do?

What is your purpose in life?

Have you ever asked yourself these questions?

I have.

As a matter of fact I have struggled with these questions a great deal of my life.

I have spent a great deal of life seeking my purpose, that ONE thing that makes my heart burn like a raging fire, that ONE thing that makes my life feel whole, that ONE thing that makes every other piece of life fit into place.

While I absolutely love being a husband and father, and believe with all of my heart that my first calling in life is to be the best husband and father I can possibly be, there is something else deep down that eats at the depths of my soul.  Something that calls out to me every single day beckoning me to dig deeper and find out what it is.  Like a treasure that wants to be found.

I can’t explain it.

I am perfectly happy as a husband and father.  I love my new career and the new opportunities I have gotten just in the last month and a half.  I am excited about working with the new people I am working with and seeing what God does in and though us.

But there is something else calling out to me.

Something that calls to the very depths of my being that there is MORE to my story.

A purpose for which I am being called!!

Maybe you have felt the same thing?  

I get it!!

I understand that feeling of being totally complete and happy but still have this ache inside that something is missing.  I have felt that feeling of being totally content in life and yet LONG for more.  I have experienced the overwhelming desire to fulfill a call that you haven’t heard yet!!

I get it!!  I really do, because I am there right now!!

*  So what can you do?

Well, all I can tell you is to:  BEGIN WITH GOD.

I don’t know what your spiritual life is, and frankly it doesn’t matter, all I know is that in order to find that ONE thing, that ghost that calls out to you in the quite, is for you to begin at the beginning:  The Creator.

You may believe in God or a Creator and you may not.  I don’t care.  What I KNOW is that in order to find whatever it is that is calling out to us it has to be found in the originator of creation.

If you and I are accidents, the product of random chance, then we are the most amazing accidents ever!!  However, we are not accidents.  We are beings created for a purpose and the only way to find the purpose of a creation is to go to the creator and ask.

That is what I am doing.

I am taking time to get with the creator and ask.

What is it that He wants me to do?  What is it that He wants me to be?  Where is it that He wants me to go?

If you are looking for your purpose in life, go to the Creator and ask!!  

Begin the journey of discovery.

Words of Encouragement:

1.)  The road is not going to be easy!!

Finding one’s purpose for life takes work and self discovery.  There are going to be times where you have to change.  That is part of the process.  Give yourself to it.  Just know that it won’t be easy.  You will learn a lot about yourself, some of it you may not like, that is okay, don’t give up!!  Part of the journey in discovering your purpose is discovering the things that hold you back from that purpose!!

2.)  It won’t come overnight!!

Just because you ask doesn’t mean you will suddenly know.  You have to wrestle with what you find.  Purpose is often disguised a lot like hard work.  Often times it looks like the complete and total opposite of what you thought it was supposed to look like.

3.)  You will REALLY, REALLY want to quit.

There will come a time when everything looks like it is working against you and that the purpose you know to be yours is just not ever going to work out.  DON’T QUIT!!!  Every person that has impacted the world had a fight a battle that determined whether they would fulfill their purpose or surrender.  DON’T SURRENDER!!  There are too many people who need you to succeed for you to quit or surrender!!

Remember this quote:

That ONE thing!!

 

Find out why you were born!!  Join me in the journey!!

It will be worth every second!!

Until next time.

Much love,

Shawn

That ONE thing!!

 

 

Going against the Current

 

Going against the Current.

Can I be real for a moment?

Great!!

Here goes:

For as long as I can remember I have wanted to make a positive and lasting impact in the world around me, to do something that would help make the world a better place.  For many years I thought that would all come from behind a pulpit or in some form of ministry.  There were other times I thought it would come through a business venture or company I was working with.  But I have always wanted to influence the world in a more positive direction.

Maybe that is selfish of me to think that I know, or think I know, the direction the world should move.  I don’t know but the fact remains that I have wanted to leave the world a better place then I found it in.  I have spent a great deal of my life in that pursuit.

Then I realized something.

I was going about everything wrong.

Confession time:  I thought that if I built my little kingdom of influence, wealth, and ability I would sooner or later enter into a position that would allow me to greatly impact the world around me.

I was wrong.

Everything I was doing was out of fear that I would “miss God” somehow and miss out on the plans and purposes He had for my life.

Then I got married and a few years later had kids.  Suddenly I realized that everything I have ever wanted to do in life could be done within the four walls of my own home.  All the influence and impact I have wanted to make in the world could be done by being the best husband and father I could be.

Can I share something with you?

I have tried hard to find my purpose in life.  For many years I thought it was to be in ministry and when that didn’t work out I thought I was supposed to be a business leader.  While I have loved and enjoyed both of those areas of my life I have still felt unsettled and empty by finding my identity in them.

Then I stopped and looked into the eyes of my beautiful wife and three amazingly beautiful children.  That is where I found my purpose.  That is where I found my identity.  God had called me to be a husband and father.  All the influence and impact I could have had paled in comparison to the influence I have at home in the lives of my wife and children.

That is why I made a REALLY hard decision.

That decision was that I would do everything in my power to have a life that allowed me to have as much time with my family as possible.  I would find a career/ministry that would allow me to do it with my family.  Why is that hard?  Well, because most careers and ministry positions take you away from your family.  That’s the nature of our current system.

Even in schooling our children Kaitlyn and I made the decision that we wanted to be the primary educators in our children’s lives so we have chosen to homeschool our kids.  We believe that the greatest influence we have in the world around us, is by pouring our lives, values, beliefs, and traditions into our children to carry into the next generation.

I am going to be honest, this is not a popular thing to do.  Many people try to find time to get away from their families, while Kaitlyn and I try to find more time to be WITH our family!!

That has meant that I am working on a career that will provide that kind of lifestyle for us.  However, we are in the building stages right now and it’s been difficult.  Things have been tight.  But we are believing God for open doors and new business.  We are also trusting that God REALLY is our provider.  That doesn’t mean I am not working hard or that I don’t have a second job to make ends meet.  It just means we are putting a plan together to impact the world around us.

So, why am I sharing this?

Well, for one thing because I just wanted to get it off of my chest, but most importantly I wanted to share with you that IT’S OKAY TO BE DIFFERENT!!!

It’s okay to not try to keep up with the Jones’s or to live within the rat race system that chews people up and spits them out.  

It’s okay to put your family first. 

It’s okay to live a life that runs against the main stream of modern society.  

Let’s be honest.  Modern day family life in America is under serious assault and things don’t look well for those trapped within the system.  

I wrote this post to encourage you that it’s okay to be a husband and father who is dedicated to your family first above everything else.  As a matter of fact it is the RIGHT way to live life!!

While that may not sit well with some, I would rather pour my whole life into my wife and kids then a job that will forget about me in a few years after my retirement.

Our greatest gifts from God are those in our own home.

Until next time.

Much love,

Shawn

Going against the Current.

100 Days of Thankfulness Day 7: My Life

100 Days of Thankfulness Day 7:  My Life

I am a blessed man!!

Seriously, God has been good to me.  Though the ups and downs, victories and defeats, I can honestly look at my life and say that God has been good!!  Really good.  Sure I have had struggle.  Heck, I am in the midst of a struggle right now, but I have also seen God’s faithful goodness in my life!!

That is why I wanted to really share my 100 Days of Thankfulness blogs.

Things have been really busy for me lately as I have been right in the middle of a career change, which has meant that I haven’t had much time to blog or share my thoughts.  However, I have not forgotten about this blog or those that read it.  Actually, I have thought a lot about this blog!!  I have gotten a lot of good feedback from several post and that always makes me feel good when I hear people being inspired or encouraged by what I share here.

With that said I wanted to pick up my 100 Days of Thankfulness blogs (If you want to catch some of the other installments you can click here, here, here, here, and here) beginning with:  My Life.

100 Days of Thankfulness Day 7: My Life

Like I said above I am a blessed man!!

10th Wedding Anniversary 

Just this past week I celebrated 10 years of wedded bliss with Kaitlyn!!  10 years!!  Wow!!  It feels like yesterday we were just meeting for the first time during college orientation (my last her first).  Now we are 10 years and three amazingly beautiful children later!!  I wouldn’t change any of the last decade for any amount of money out there!!  It has been awesome and I look forward to another amazing 70 years together (we have both committed to living at least until age 100).

 

3 Beautiful Children

100 Days of Thankfulness Day 7:  My Life

Seriously, my kids are beautiful!!

In a few words:  Kaitlyn and I make beautiful babies!!

I sometimes feel bad for other parents because my kids are so amazingly beautiful!!

I couldn’t be humbled by the fact that God allowed me to have my three babies.  I have learned so much about life though them and I would give up everything in the world to be with them and watch them grow.  Besides their mommy there is nothing in the world more important to me then them.

Life in General

There is a lot going on in my life right now;  from family life, a new career, working on a dream project, and so much more but above it all I am thankful for my life.  It is good.  I am blessed.  While I am certainly working on some things that I hope produce more for our family and opportunities for others, as of right now even with the current struggle of building a new company I am thankful!!

What are you thankful for in your life?

Share it!!  I want to hear what God is doing in you!!

Until next time.

Much love,

Shawn

100 Days of Thankfulness Day 7:  My Life

10 Years ago today I married my best friend!!

10 years ago today I married my best friend.

Today I celebrate being married to my best friend for 10 years!!

It has been an amazing decade!!

Through the ups and the downs, the victories and defeats, we have seen God be faithful to us and I cannot wait to see what the next 10 years have in store for us as a family.  I am a blessed man.  There is no one in the world I would rather wake up to, go to sleep next to, or raise the three beautiful children we have together then Kaitlyn.

Kait,

I love you!!  Thank you for the best 10 years of my life and I look forward to an even better 10 ahead!!  I love you to the moon and back!!

 

Shawn

I am who I am.

I am who I am.

 

I am who I am.

That’s the conclusion I have come to in life.

I am who I am.

Some people will like that and others won’t.

That’s okay.

I am a man who is passionate about my faith, my family, and my country.  That doesn’t mean I am always right or that I always have the answers to every question, it just means that I love what I have been blessed with and I want to take care of it properly.

What does that mean?

Well, it means that you and I may disagree on some issues.  We may come to different conclusions on similar topics.  Guess what?  That is totally okay!!  Actually it’s probably a REALLY good thing because it will cause us to know what we believe and why we believe it, while at the same time allowing us to be challenged in our stances (which cause us to grow).

I don’t purposefully go looking to make someone angry or to offend.  I don’t talk about topics to get “clicks to my blog” or to “stir up debate.”  I talk about issues that are important to me because I am someone who talks out the things I am wrestling with and debating internally.  I like to see the issue from every side, so I will present a topic for discussion because I want to see if I am missing an angle that could change my perspective.

I am a student of life and I take growth very seriously.  I want to be the best husband, father, business owner, and leader I can possibly be.  I want to learn in order to grow and become better.  That is why I am willing to change my beliefs if need be as I get more information on the topics I am wrestling with.

So who am I?

First and foremost I am a Christian or follower of Jesus.

I use the term Christian loosely, as in today’s culture is tends to mean a particular kind of Christian (mostly evangelical).  While many would call me a heretic for some of my doctrinal stances I simply adhere to the accent creeds of the Christian faith as my guide for what a Christian believes.  You can find that here.

That means you will read a lot of spiritual stuff on this blog.  Why?  Because I like talking about it.  I love talking about those who have been used by God to touch others, debating different spiritual ideas and doctrines, and talking about the faith of others, so as to encourage those who feel life is mundane and boring, that there are normal everyday people all around us who are changing the world.

I am a Husband and Father.

I love my family.  Seriously!!  I love them!!  They are my number one priority in life!!  I believe my ultimate purpose is to be the best husband and father I can be for my family.  So, you will see a lot of post about my family life.  Some will be funny, others will talk about things we should do as husbands and fathers to be better, and some will totally frustrate people as I talk about the fact that men and women ARE different and that is okay!!

(I will not be politically correct on this blog)

I have had my share of challenges as a husband and father.  I have learned a lot in the last 10 years of marriage.  Like what not to say when you are angry with your wife, or how not to deal with the kids when you are tired.  But my hope is that those who read this blog will be encouraged that there are other people out there who are just as scared as they are about being the best we can be.

I believe that marriage and family life should be celebrated and that is what I want to do!!

I am a political junkie.

Actually I hate politics.

I would rather raise my family in peace then deal with the stupidity in government.  However, I cannot ignore the fact that America has traveled far from the intentions of its Founders.  That we as a nation are moving further from the ideas of freedom and liberty toward a more politically correct form of slavery that no one seems to notice.  I must take the words of John Adams to heart:

“I must study politics and war, that my sons may have the liberty to study mathematics and philosophy, natural history and naval architecture, in order to give their children a right to study painting, poetry, music, architecture, tapestry, and porcelain.”

To be absent from the workings and deals of our nation is to be complicit to it’s destruction.

I am a business man.

Yeah, I run my own business.  Actually if everything goes right this year I will have two businesses running.  I will share more on what I do and what I am working on later but for now just know you may see some posts that relate to business.

That’s not too bad Shawn

My agenda is to talk about life and everything that encompasses it, so for many of the posts I share here you may agree.  However, I ask that if you don’t, don’t leave.  Hang out and let’s talk.  I am a firm believer in making friends of those who disagree with me because I have learned that the more I listen to different points of view the more I can grow.

I am who I am.

Some will like that.  Others won’t.  Either way I hope to live a life that encourages those around me.

Until next time.

Much love,

Shawn

I am who I am.

 

Promise Keepers and my thoughts on Men’s Conferences in General.

Promise Keepers and my thoughts on Men's Conferences in General.

 

A few weeks ago I got to do something I have always wanted to do, attend a Promise Keepers event.  I enjoyed it.  I didn’t agree with everything that was said or taught, but I enjoyed the fellowship of my brother (who hooked me up with a ticket) and one of my closest friends whom I hadn’t seen in a long time (here’s looking at you Bobby).  It was a good event.  The worship team they brought in was great and I even got to see Lincoln Brewster one of the nights (he is great live by the way).  So overall it was a good weekend.  I left refreshed mostly because I got to connect to my brother and friend.

However, I was a little disappointed by a few things:  First, attendance was dismal.  I remember the days when Promise Keeper events drew tens of thousands of men to football stadiums around the nation.  Here in Baton Rouge we were lucky if we cracked a thousand men.  What happened?  I have heard there have been some financial issues with the organization in the past but to go from filling football stadiums to not even coming close to filling my church is rough.

Second, why are ALL men’s events the same?  Seriously, I can pretty much breakdown every single men’s ministry event I have ever been too with the following:

1.)  Love Jesus.

2.)  Love your wife.

3.)  Love your kids.

4.)  Don’t watch porn.

No joke, if you think about it for a minute, every men’s retreat or weekend you have ever gone on have pretty much fallen into what I just described.  Is that all men are good for?  Is that all we are called to as a man?  I’m not saying loving Jesus, your wife and kids, and not watching porn are bad things.  To the contrary doing all of those things are great!!  But is that all we have to give to men in today’s church?

How are you exactly “unleashing a warrior” by telling men to love their wives and families and not watch porn?  

Is there more to manhood then generalities?

I am a man.

I love Jesus.

I don’t have to be told to love my family.

I understand what porn can do to a man and those he loves.

Am I now a might warrior now?

Can I be honest?

I think it’s ok to be a normal dude.  A guy who works hard, loves his family, serves his community to the best of his ability, and loves Jesus.

Truth be told life at times is boring and repetitious.

Being a man isn’t about trying to become some kind of modern day warrior (whatever that means).  It’s about being responsible with what you have been given.  Are you married?  Love your wife like Christ loves the Church.  Do you have children?  Love them like God loves all people.  Do you own a business or have a job?  Work as unto the Lord in all you do.  Are you single?  Serve God with thanksgiving.  Do what is right.  Love goodness and mercy.  Stand up for the oppressed.  Be the salt and light.

Being a man isn’t about being a warrior.  Sometimes it’s about being there as a husband and father.  Sometimes it’s about working hard to provide for your family.  Sometimes it means you take a stand in your community because it’s the right thing to do.

Yes, we are to love Jesus, our wives, and our children.  Yes, we should flee from pornography and the destruction it brings.

But you are more then just someone who needs to be reminded that you should love Jesus, your family, and not watch porn.

You are a husband to a woman whom God brought to you to complete you.  

You are a father to children though whom you will leave a legacy (by the way you get to pick what kind of legacy so choose wisely).

And most of all you are a Son of the King of Kings.  You are a Prince of the Kingdom of God.  You are HIGHLY favored and loved.  You have the riches of your Father and you are the apple of His eye!!  

I enjoyed the Promise Keepers event I attended.  My hope though is that in future events time will be spent more on showing men who they really are instead of telling them how to manage sin and do the right thing.  I believe that if we focused our attention more on helping people know and truly understand who they are in Christ, the rest of the things we worry about so much would work themselves out.

That’s my goal.  To help people see who they are in Christ.  It’s a beautiful thing.

Until next time.

Much love,

Shawn

Promise Keepers and my thoughts on Men's Conferences in General.

 

 

 

The Wilson Mail Bag

The Wilson Mail Bag

*  The 22 Most WTF Moments from the Greatest Wrestling Match Ever!!  And that is exactly how the match went!!

*  Pastor Benny Perez is a Pastor I really enjoy.  HERE is his churches website.  If I ever move to Las Vegas this is where I will be!!

*  God is opening so many new doors for my family and I over the last month that I can barely keep up with it all!!  I am really enjoying God’s presence in my life right now.  After such a long wintery season (about 11 years) it is nice to be seeing some fruit from prayers prayed several years ago.

*  I am working on a political post that is going to stir up some debate but I want to make sure I get the message out clearly so I am taking my time.

*  I am convinced that the reason people are so talkative on airplanes, and want to share their life stories is because they think they are going to die in a plane crash.

*  Here is a new report on the missing Malaysia flight.  My only question is WHERE IS THAT AIRPLANE?!?!?!

*  Pope Francis is just awesome!!  Bet you didn’t know THIS.

*  51 Places to visit before you die.   Seriously, these are some amazing places!!

*  I have a new office space!! It’s AWESOME!!  It has it’s own bathroom and even a BED!!  Ok, I just moved my desk into my bedroom but it is still awesome!!

*  I was officially voted on last night as a board member of the Christian Home Educators Fellowship of Baton Rouge.  That’s pretty cool!!  Very excited about that!!

*  SIGH!!  There is no hope for humanity!!

*  If you are a pro wrestling fan you will enjoy THIS.

*  The 90’s had the best music ever!!  Some of it leaked into the early 2000’s too.

*  What Would it look like if a Football Coach Coached Soccer.

*  I think I am going to add a section to these posts where I answer questions I see on Ask.com.

*  I am always tired when 3 pm rolls around on Friday, which means it’s been a good week!!

*  My first month in my new career and I am on track to do better then I have done in a LONG TIME!!

*  God is Good.

*  Grace and Peace

Until next time.

Much love,

Shawn

The Wilson Mail Bag